Post by Mr Momentum & the Sidesteppers on Aug 14, 2021 11:58:58 GMT -5
As I get older my views on relationships have slowly changed. Over time I began to find the concept of being married or committed to someone to be very bizarre and unappealing. For just a few reasons off the top of my head: why must you only be allowed to love one person, why is it necessary to be married to prove one's love, why do you have to buy someone a ring and throw a wedding? Why do people even bother getting married when more and more it seems like the vast majority of marriages end in divorce? Is it really truly surprising that so many married people or committed people cheat on one another? We are told to think of such people as dirtbags, but are they really? What if they just have a need that isn't being met? Why are they such bad people simply for attempting to fulfill a biological or sociological need? All in all I don't disrespect anyone's choice to be married but in the end, I don't really understand it. Neither of my parents have ever been married, many family members have never been married. I guess you could say in my family at least it was never considered some enormous priority to people's lives. If I'm being perfectly honest, very few married couples I've personally observed "seem" to be very happy, but that's just my anecdotal observation. More or less I begin to question this concept of marriage and monogamy in our western society that is apparently the norm. Why is this the norm? Do another mammalian species practise this? If they don't why do we insist on doing it? Are human beings actually biologically inclined to be monogamous? Over time, I have begun to personally conclude that the answer is no, we're not. It's just not really how we evolved anthropologically or anything, this concept of marriage and monogamy is in the grand scheme of things, a very recent invention of society.
I think this whole concept of monogamy and marriage are really, fundamentally based on concepts of jealousy and possession. The ring itself is representing a chain between two people, to me this kind of chain is a very ugly thing. Some desire to have a possession over other people and to feel as if they "belong" to us and we "belong" to them. It's honestly very peculiar when you think about it. Most people find the concept of their significant other having sex with someone else to be distasteful or repugnant. I wonder why this is, in the end I can only conclude its jealousy. I think over time I've understood the idea that no one person can offer you everything, in terms of friendship, romance, sex or love and at the same time, you are incapable of offering everything someone else needs as well. We're social animals, we're supposed to get our needs met by a variety of people. Which is why as I've gotten older, I've become more inclined towards open or polyamorous relationships. Seriously, have any of you guys ever tried group degeneracy? It's pretty damn fun. And really, if everyone is smart enough to go get themselves tested for STIs, what is the problem? Go nuts. I've just gone over the whole mental philosophy of why one might not be interested in traditional marriage. The more practical reason is also because it makes it much easier to pursue other people you might be interested in while seeing someone else, and also opens up the door to polydegeneracy and group sex much easier. Honestly the people you meet in these group encounters seem much happier than the average married couple. It could just be a case of a husband who loves his wife, but realizes she really wants to take two or three dicks at a time, or maybe she's just a total size queen and needs to get stretched out completely sometimes. The husband understands he cannot fulfill such a need, or perhaps he can't fulfill it alone. Is it not possible that the love between these two could grow from a group sex encounter with a man with a much bigger cock than the husband? Just some food for thought. Maybe a woman realizes what her husband wants is to just let off some steam in a threeway or to just fuck another guy, or get fucked by another guy. Obviously the wife can't fulfill such a need, but if the guy fucks another guy does he really suddenly love his wife "less" because of that? I don't think love is some finite resource like money, you can love multiple people at once and to different degrees and so on. I know it's not the way most people view things but what can I say, I've lived a lot of life and met various different people, I've learned a lot and my viewpoints have shifted with time.
I dunno, maybe one day in the far flung future I'll change my mind about all this and decide to get married and have kids. Until then, I'm just gonna keep uploading fucked up homemade shit to my xvideos channel.
Here's a nice little video that explains some of these concepts better than I can. Vote in the poll, I want to hear people's thoughts.
Steve Harvey appears to understand this concept very well
I think this whole concept of monogamy and marriage are really, fundamentally based on concepts of jealousy and possession. The ring itself is representing a chain between two people, to me this kind of chain is a very ugly thing. Some desire to have a possession over other people and to feel as if they "belong" to us and we "belong" to them. It's honestly very peculiar when you think about it. Most people find the concept of their significant other having sex with someone else to be distasteful or repugnant. I wonder why this is, in the end I can only conclude its jealousy. I think over time I've understood the idea that no one person can offer you everything, in terms of friendship, romance, sex or love and at the same time, you are incapable of offering everything someone else needs as well. We're social animals, we're supposed to get our needs met by a variety of people. Which is why as I've gotten older, I've become more inclined towards open or polyamorous relationships. Seriously, have any of you guys ever tried group degeneracy? It's pretty damn fun. And really, if everyone is smart enough to go get themselves tested for STIs, what is the problem? Go nuts. I've just gone over the whole mental philosophy of why one might not be interested in traditional marriage. The more practical reason is also because it makes it much easier to pursue other people you might be interested in while seeing someone else, and also opens up the door to polydegeneracy and group sex much easier. Honestly the people you meet in these group encounters seem much happier than the average married couple. It could just be a case of a husband who loves his wife, but realizes she really wants to take two or three dicks at a time, or maybe she's just a total size queen and needs to get stretched out completely sometimes. The husband understands he cannot fulfill such a need, or perhaps he can't fulfill it alone. Is it not possible that the love between these two could grow from a group sex encounter with a man with a much bigger cock than the husband? Just some food for thought. Maybe a woman realizes what her husband wants is to just let off some steam in a threeway or to just fuck another guy, or get fucked by another guy. Obviously the wife can't fulfill such a need, but if the guy fucks another guy does he really suddenly love his wife "less" because of that? I don't think love is some finite resource like money, you can love multiple people at once and to different degrees and so on. I know it's not the way most people view things but what can I say, I've lived a lot of life and met various different people, I've learned a lot and my viewpoints have shifted with time.
I dunno, maybe one day in the far flung future I'll change my mind about all this and decide to get married and have kids. Until then, I'm just gonna keep uploading fucked up homemade shit to my xvideos channel.
Here's a nice little video that explains some of these concepts better than I can. Vote in the poll, I want to hear people's thoughts.
Steve Harvey appears to understand this concept very well
